Women want men that are interested in them, not sex. Sex blossoms out of a marriage where both partners feel safe. I had not had sex for two years when I started dating again. It took several weeks for me to be able to get and sustain an erection. I am coming off of a failed relationship after trying years to save it. Now there is a woman who wants to be with me and I can’t get an erection?
A common view considers old people to be incapable of experiencing strong love, as their sexual desire and physical abilities are expected to have declined with age. This is a simplistic and distorted idea. It is often the case that love at old age is deeper than that at a young age. The belief has been that, along with a decay in physical and mental capacities, happiness and romantic love decline with age. Older people are often happier and more satisfied with their lives and their marriages than younger people are. You won’t have to worry about whether or a man over 50 likes you—he’ll let you know.
Nothing less attractive than short hair, glasses and frumpy. If a 60 year old woman keeps herself trim, puts on heels, has long hair, a dress then every guy’s head will still turn when she walks by. No mystery…be independent, successful, confident, modern, etc but foremost be sexy. There’s no need to compete with the 35 year old. We dont care about age…we care about you being on object of desire.
Nothing wrong with a little chivalry, even in this day and age. Down the road if the relationship turns into something meaningful I don’t mind doing my share of paying for Click dinner and other activities. That was so funny and yet wise and true. The only way to find yourself in a “great” relationship is to love and look out for yourself first.
It’s been 4 years did you find someone? Every relationship is a compromise so every relationship would be settling. Hope you aren’t deluding yourself out of a good thing with a good man because of too high of standards.
[Serious] People now in their 50s and 60s, how accurate was the Golden Girls in its depiction of dating in that age group?
I certainly don’t expect physical perfection at our ages, but I work to stay in shape and hope my partner understands the need to make an effort in this area too. Many women also don’t have “skills” in the bedroom. The Truth Teller…..it is sad that we women can’t find decent men because the lot of us are judged as you have described.
I agree that it seems to be much harder for women over 50 – or over 40 actually – to find men who are their equals AND who are interested in a serious relationship with them. It seems like these women feel that at least this is better than being alone. Someone who has enthusiasm in life and has energy. Who says a 50 year old female can’t climb a tree and share a popsicle? This is what many males and female ‘don’t get’. I can sill climb that tree and my favorite wine flavour is ‘purple’…not Chardonnay.
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On top of that, if you’ve been out of the dating scene for 20 or 30 years, you’ll come to realize that a lot has changed. For example, behaviors like “ghosting” and “breadcrumbing” are part of the new norm. “These behaviors have been around for a long time, but nowhere near the extent to which they are now,” says Deb Laino, DHS, a Delaware-based relationship therapist and certified sex educator.
Older people have smaller social networks, are less drawn to novelty than younger people, and reduce their spheres of interest. Nevertheless, they appear as happy as younger people. This makes sense, as in a situation of decreasing horizons, people prioritize deepening existing relationships and developing expertise in already satisfying areas of life . In romantic compromises, we give up a romantic value, such as passionate love, in exchange for a nonromantic quality-of-life value.
That bond if it can be achieved is one of life’s greatest gifts. Maybe some women put sex first in a relationship, but as a majority I think not. If men can step up and accept us for who we are and make an effort, I’m sure most women would want their man to be happy as well, and would gladly do what we can to please you physically. Sure men and women are different, but it’s not impossible to make a relationship work. What’s ironic is womwn in their late thirties with kids like me. Most women in their 50s don’t want to date men much younger.
There’s 50 yr olds looking 40 yrs old and 50 yr olds who look 60 or 70 yrs old. But I think a guys who is always looking for women much younger aren’t really worth being with as a contemporary anyway. Spring Hill Frank………I am 50 and I have no interest in dating much younger than my age. I would have nothing in common with a man in his 20’s or 30’s. I would go a little younger than my age if I found a nice guy, but not much younger. I don’t care what the articles out there say.
When you find your someone, you WILL appreciate them more and they will recognize it. I have read a lot here tonight, lots of different viewpoints, all educating. I had plans for our future together, I am now making plans for my future alone, spending more time with my daughters and with friends.
These men tell me how great I am…..special, one in seven million….yada yada yada….. In the next breath either their baggage gets in the way or they don’t want to disappoint me. I am not looking for perfection because it doesn’t exist. I can accept them but they don’t even want to try. They actually encourage me to look for someone else.
Sure I have scars, but they don’t stop me from moving forward and believing I can have something meaningful again with a man. That’s my situation, too, but with a twist. I’m 53, never been married, no kids, and have had both casual and long-term relationships with men. Pretty, educated, and started a great career at 48 (one that keeps me hopping, even on weekends, so, yes, a bit hard to plan things – I’m a realtor).
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